The Gravity of Being in Love
Navigating the space of love
Uh oh, it’s happening! You slipped and fell, and the floor you landed on is unfamiliar.
The gravity of love pulled you in.
This act of “falling” symbolizes the transition from life as you know it, and what you will now begin to experience… being in love.
Those who have been in love know that while the fall can be nerve-wrecking, and almost feels like you should resist, the most beautiful thing you can do is let go and give in to this unmovable force.
As love pulls you in, you need to surrender. You need to let go.
Letting go
At first, being in love can be overwhelming. It can even make you feel uneasy.
What was once a free mind is now constantly uncontrollably occupied by another.
Instead of thinking about what you need to do at work or what you will eat for dinner, you’re trying to think of new ways to make someone smile.
Love is like gravity, constantly pulling you in. No matter how hard you try to fight it, you’re pulled right back to the center of it all.
So, let go.
By letting go, you are giving yourself to something more. You have unlocked a new purpose.
When you jump, gravity pulls you back to the surface of the Earth. In the same way, if you let go and accept love, you will also land.
However, you don’t always land safely.
In the same way that you may fall, roll your ankle, or the ground may crumble beneath you when you jump, when you place your faith in love, the gravity of it can also hurt you.
You are trusting that the love you are surrendering to will care for you the way you care for it, and that can be scary.
One might ask, “Why take the risk when the fall may seriously injure me?”
The same reason you would take the risk for anything, to bring greater beauty to your life.
Without taking the risk of love, you miss out on the most fundamental condition for life. For without love, there is no life.
Letting go is a courageous act, especially for those who have experienced injury before.
But more than anything, surrendering to this force is worth the risk.
So, let go.
The beauty of it all
It’s cliche, but true. Being in love with someone who loves you back is the most beautiful thing life has to offer.
The feeling is hard to put into words, but all of those who have felt it know.
Everything you do has more meaning.
It doesn’t matter if it’s working, working out, dancing, or writing. It starts to mean a little bit more to you.
This is because you are now doing everything for more than yourself.
Scary, you may think.
But it’s really quite beautiful.
Songs start to sound better, colours start to look prettier, and the sensation of touch has never felt so good.
You have someone to share your good experiences with and someone to be there for you when something bad happens.
Waking up never felt so good. You turn to the side and see the most perfect thing you’ve ever seen looking right back at you.
You start to drive with one hand because the other is holding your love’s.
The future excites you for reasons it didn’t before.
You never cared for kids, but now they look much cuter. In fact, they’re even fun to converse with.
And you’re even doing things you never liked before. No one's seen you dance at weddings before, but here you are, lighting up the floor with a smile on your face.
The feeling of being in love is incredible. You’re so thankful you let go.
But often, this feeling does not last.
As the world changes, so do you, and if you and your love fail to accept the changes in each other, the gravity will start to fade.
This time, it is not the gravity of love that is pulling you in; it is the force of heartbreak. And this fall hurts much more.
Falling out of love
The same way the fall represents the transition from regular life to one of love, the fall out of love represents the transition from love to heartbreak.
Brace yourself, for this one will hurt.
You’ll be asking yourself why you ever took the risk of being in love in the first place.
You will have all this extra love you were used to giving to someone else, and you will have no idea what to do with it.
You’ll alternate from being mad at the one who hurt you to being mad at yourself.
You will go from crying to laughing, and back to crying, multiple times.
And guess what… You will be okay.
For you will realize that the same love you were giving to another, you can give to yourself.
And what now?
When the pain has gone away, and the love you redirected to yourself has allowed you to heal, you will go on a journey once again.
Like a rock moving through space, eventually, the gravity of another body will pull you in.
And when that happens, you will have no choice but to let go and do it all again.
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