Actually, You Just Might Not Be Good Enough… Yet
Real (and maybe harsh) self-improvement advice
As a teenager looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend, you were told, “Just be yourself!” And then…
Boom! You get rejected.
Confused and saddened, you start to wonder why “yourself” was not good enough.
The truth is, being yourself is often not good enough. Sorry!
Don’t worry! This is only because you have not yet developed into who you have the potential to be.
You need to work on becoming your “best self”.
Let this serve as a guide to help you figure out where to start and how to do this.
This is important because if you do not become your highest potential self, you will end up surrounded by people and things you don’t enjoy!
1. Start by identifying your weaknesses
Let’s make this clear: this is not meant to make you feel bad or to make you hyperanalyze every possible aspect of your life.
This helps you identify what needs work.
Do you lack direction or confidence? You need to do inner work.
Do you often feel low energy and weak? You need to focus on your health.
Do you have trouble keeping up in conversations? You need to read and learn more.
Take some time to meditate on it. If you can’t meditate, write everything down on paper. (and don’t be lazy)
If you’re really struggling, feel free to ask an honest friend or family member.
2. Work on your health
Without a doubt, the best thing you can do for your life is to improve your health.
It’ll help with your:
Stress
Confidence
Appearance
Mental health
Energy levels
Physical health
And more.
This may be tough to hear, but the reason you have no energy and are not confident is that you didn’t sleep well, ate like shit, or are carrying extra weight (Likely all the above).
The bright side is that all of this can be improved and worked on immediately.
Results will come, they will continue to come, and your work will pay off time and time again.
So, get started.
3. Spend more time learning about yourself
To create any genuine change or connection, you need to have a deep understanding of yourself.
How are you to become “good enough” if you don’t know who you are or who you want to be?
This can be done in many ways. Some of my favourites include:
Therapy
Journaling
Meditaiton
Through constant reflection and inner work, you’ll learn everything that upsets you, pleases you, excites you, and so on.
You may not be good enough yet, but learning about yourself will help you continuously improve.
4. Work on your people skills
Sometimes, you are good enough, but you just don’t know how to present that. That’s because your people skills are no good.
Imagine if the fastest car in the world looked like a Pontiac Aztek (hideous). No one would understand how fast it was without driving it.
Even then, they would still doubt it from time to time.
You need to learn how to talk to people, make them laugh, and connect with them deeply (and quickly).
This will not only let them see how good you really are, but it’ll have others defending you to those who doubt you, and have them thinking you are better than you are.
5. Don’t stop learning
The main reason you may not be good enough yet is that you simply don’t know.
You might not know enough about history, the economy, politics, technology or even science.
The bright side is, it can all be learned!
As the world evolves, though, there is more to learn. This means you must never stop learning.
You must always remain a student.
You must learn from books, YouTube videos, movies, podcasts, people, and through observation.
Find every possible way to continue learning.
Because even if you are “good enough” now, that doesn’t mean you will be in the future.
Conclusion
Here’s a little secret… The only person you need to be good enough for is yourself.
Once you are self-knowledgeable, confident, and continuously working on yourself, you will feel good enough, and that alone will be good enough for others.
As your work, relationships, health, and self-identity improve, your self-happiness will too… and that is the whole point of it all at the end of the day.
Thanks for reading