This Is Why Prioritizing Self-Happiness Will Lead to Wins All-Around
Quit focusing on the grind and start focusing on yourself
Self-happiness isn’t just a luxury - it is a non-negotiable. Self-happiness needs to be your #1 priority.
Instead of chasing external wins, seeking validation from others and grinding non-stop, I started doing the opposite. I’ve been prioritizing self-love and my own joy with the goal of achieving self-happiness.
The result?
I’m healthier, more confident, have improved focus, more friendships and funny enough, more external wins and more motivation to grind.
What I’m getting at is that prioritizing self-happiness is a win-win all around.
Let’s go over how you can optimize your life in the same way.
Why Self-Happiness Matters
Who is the one companion you have to live with every day until you die? Your mind, body and everything else that comes with your self.
It’s a truth I live by. Something I think about daily.
With the reality of being stuck with yourself till the end… You may as well get to know yourself on such a deep level that you are happy with yourself.
Higher levels of self-happiness will completely change your life.
It changes how you perceive anything that happens to you and others in your life.
It makes you more pleasant to be around, more positive and fun.
Self-happiness is the key to an enjoyable life.
Daily habits that will build self-happiness
If you’ve read any of my blog posts, you’ve heard all about habits for multiple areas of your life.
In the same way you want to have good habits to improve your health, knowledge or sleep, you also want to have healthy habits to improve your self-happiness.
Here are a few for you to reflect on:
Working out regularly
Celebrating your wins
Practicing gratitude daily
Spend time loving yourself
Minimizing social media to avoid the comparison trap
The idea is to create habits which, once established, make you happier with yourself.
If you’re healthy and in shape, you’ll feel happy with yourself.
If you’re sleeping well, eating healthy and celebrating your wins, you’ll be happy with yourself.
Makes sense, right?
Setting boundaries: learning to say no
We’ve all been there…You said yes to something you know you shouldn’t have, only to leave yourself feeling some shame the next day.
That’s common for the drinkers out there, but what about the people who committed to a project for the next few weeks?
Or, the ones who now have to attend an event in 3 months, which they never wanted to go to in the first place? (oh, the misery)
It’s one of the most valuable skills you can adopt.
Every time you say yes to something that you don’t want to do or something that doesn’t matter, you are saying NO to the things that DO matter.
Remember that!
The power of positive (and negative) relationships
Sometimes, the reason you are struggling to be happy with yourself is because what’s outside of you is damaging.
The people you spend the most time with often determine how you feel about yourself.
Now, this doesn’t mean you should rely on others for happiness (because you shouldn’t).
What it does mean though is that if the people around you are negative, you will have a damn hard time being positive.
At the same time, if you are surrounded by positive people, their happiness and positivity will likely be contagious.
Take a look at who you spend time with and ask yourself how their energy affects you.
Self-care leads to self-happiness
Without a doubt, the best way to create self-happiness is to take good care of yourself. Treat yourself like the person you love the most because you should be!
Don’t worry, we all screw up from time to time! I scold myself when I cave and eat delicious hot Cheetos.
But don’t be surprised if you are not happy because of your screw ups.
I go by the 80% rule (although I shoot for 90%). You should be making healthy decisions for yourself at least 80% of the time.
If you go to the gym, eat healthy, get good sleep, avoid alcohol, and practice mindfulness 80% of your week, you will be in a way better place and way closer to self-happiness.
Take care of yourself!
Closing Thoughts
Self-happiness should always be your priority. You will struggle to do anything excellently if you are unhappy with yourself.
Your work, your life, and your experience are all direct reflections of how you feel about yourself.
Thanks for reading